I feel a strange grief today. I don’t mean strange as in unexpected. Today is the anniversary of my little brother’s birth, and subsequent death 13 hours later. This grief comes in a strange shape - the shape of someone I never met, who never got to define themselves. This grief is for a loss of a potential.
His name was Roger Edward Spencer III. My parents called him Eddie. He would’ve been 23 today. He probably would have been graduating college soon. I sometimes feel an Eddie-shaped hole in my life on important dates. Graduations, both high school and college. Birthday parties. My wedding. And of course, every April 15th.
I hope we would’ve been friends. That we both liked the same books and video games. Maybe he would’ve been in marching band with me. Maybe he would’ve gone to college nearby. Maybe he and Brendan would’ve been friends. I’ll never know, and I mourn that.
Every year on April 15th I buy a happy birthday balloon, spend a few minutes talking to it, updating it on the last year. Then I let it go. I’m not sure if I believe in heaven, but I hope he gets it anyway.
Anonymous asked:What do you think of miley?
Black fetishizing, cultural appropriating, self-important douchebag comes to mind.
She manages to perpetuate anti-Black symbolism and stereotypes while getting profits from taking our culture and turning us (esp. Black women) into props, she has also dehumanized and humiliated little people, and others in marginalized groups as a part of her ‘freak show’ type theme. She’s disrespectful, has no regard for anyone for herself, and is generally not someone I would ever want to associate with on any level, music or otherwise.
someone gave a REAL reason as to why miley ain’t shit.
im so sick of hearing “oh well because she’s a whore.” or “she did that drug thing.”
like, that’s HER self. if that’s what she chooses to do with herself and her body, fine. that shit is none of your business, and she can do anything she pleases in that retrospect.
what she cannot do, is use black people as objects. or use our women in her videos to market her ridiculousness. and try to appeal to other white people by using things in our culture, like our fashion, our mannerisms, etc. to show that it’s just okay to go and pretend to be something you’re fucking not. also, trying to make it so that black culture is almost a “trend”. WE ARE A PEOPLE, NOT A PASSING FAD.
i praise you for being one of the few who sees the real problem with miley cyrus.